Mind vs. Heart

By | December 31, 2016

Mind or Heart?

mind vs. heartmind vs. heartHow do you find the balance between mind vs. heart?

Have you ever had an experience where you didn’t treat a certain area of your life with enough importance or place enough value on it?

People always joke about gaining 10 or 20 pounds during the holidays. Because of all the good food (really good tasting but ultimately bad for you).

We joke about it so often, but think about it – If I decide to eat all the food I want during the holidays, I’m going to feel the effects.

If I don’t exercise regularly and choose to take care of my body, then I’m going to feel the effects. There are going to be consequences for everything I choose to do in life.

If I’m treating fitness with the utmost importance but neglecting my wife and not investing in her life, then there are going to be effects that I feel from that.

So it’s important that I understand what’s important in life and that I treat ALL of those areas with the same level of value. In other words, I treat them all with equal regard.

What’s the Problem?

imbalanceNew years is that time of year when we all, collectively take a moment (some take more time than others) to reflect on and evaluate our life.

First we reflect on our lives over the last year, then our mind transitions at some point to evaluate our lives as a whole.

And during this time, because of the nature of how New Years is celebrated, we tend to focus on what we can do better or an area where we can improve in our lives.

What is it that we don’t do and wish we could? What is it that we do and wish we could stop doing? Chances are, it’s something in your life that ties back to your spirituality – your relationship with God.

My message to you is this – We all face the struggle of imbalance in our lives and feel the consequences of it.imbalance

Where does it hit home the hardest? SPIRITUALLY…it hurts the most when we don’t treat our spiritual lives (our relationship with God) with the same level of importance as everything else going on in our lives.

Whether you’re a new Christian, senior Christian, or not a Christian at all – this is where it hurts us the most. Whether you want to believe it or not, this is true…why?

Because when you reflect on your life, the biggest voids you feel are from not being/feeling loved and accepted in some way, shape, or form…by your dad, your mom, your brother or sister, your girlfriend or boyfriend, your wife or husband and the list goes on and on.

All of your pain and hurt that you feel is rooted and sourced from LOVE. And guess what? God IS Love.

“Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.” – 1 John 4:7-8 ESV

This looks different for each and every one of us. Some of us don’t pray enough and feel disconnected from God, some of us neglect the loving relationships in our lives, some of us are stuck in sin patterns and are believing the lie from Satan that God has turned his back on us because of it. The list goes on and on.

What’s Your Point?

What's your point?

I’m sure many of you are thinking, “okay great, you’re telling me there’s something I can do better in my life, what’s your point?”

The point is this – God’s Word has something to say about all of this. When we don’t have the right perspective, our life gets out of whack and sometimes we look up a year or several years later and wonder what the heck happened!

You can fix all of that now by:

  1.  Listening to what God has to say about it
  2.  Taking action
  3.  Adopting the perspective of making everything that God designed to be important in your life, to be treated with equal value.

“The eye cannot say to the hand, ‘I have no need of you,’ nor again the head to the feet, ‘I have no need of you.’ On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, and on those parts of the body that we think less honorable we bestow the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty, which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so composed the body, giving greater honor to the part that lacked it, that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the SAME CARE for one another. If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together. – 1 Corinthians 12:21-26 ESV

In the body of of the church and in our individual lives, it’s a collective effort and all members are equally important – you will not be complete if you have one or some without the others.

So it is in our relationship with Jesus –> There is the heart, soul, mind, and strength. Just as the eye can never say to the hand, “I don’t need you.” …The mind (intellect) can never say to the heart, “I don’t need you” and vice versa.

“You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might.” -Deuteronomy 6:5 ESV

“and you shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” -Mark 12:30 ESV

Therefore, your relationship with Jesus cannot be complete without all of these held in equal regard. If you favor one heavily over the other, then your relationship with Jesus is hindered because it is either incomplete or lacking in some area(s). You need to have an equal balance of mind and heart in your life as you pursue a real relationship with Jesus.balance

Here’s the deal: I know Christians who favor their mind and are very intellectual but lack the heart for Jesus. No offense, but they come off as Christian robots.

I also know Christians who treat their heart toward Jesus with more importance than intellect- the touchy, feely, emotional types. 😛

I’ve seen both sides of it and lived it in seasons of my own life and the end result is not good when done this way.

It needs to be both (your mind and heart) in perfect balance and harmony, treated with equal respect. If I pursue God through all wisdom and knowledge, that’s great! But where is my desire for intimacy with Him?

If I pursue God with all my heart, that’s great! But where is His wisdom and knowledge to provide discernment, clarity, and conviction?

Think of an orchestra, how beautiful it sounds when everything is in harmony! Truth is, if we heard some of those instruments by themselves it wouldn’t sound as great, and in some cases, not good at all!

But in an orchestra, each instrument and each person is equally valued. Some instruments are more flashy than others while some are more modest.Harmony & balance

Pursue harmony and balance between the two!

What About You?

What about you?

You have two options today:

  1. You can walk away from reading this article and do nothing – make no changes. If you do that, that’s fine but I’ll let you in on a little secret – If you make no change, your life will not change and you will walk away as the same person with the same life and the same pain.
  2. You can pray and think about the question I’m about to give you and honestly evaluate God’s word to grow closer to Him through whatever He reveals to you in this process.

*I vote option 2!* 😀

Here’s my question(s) for you: Where’s the imbalance in your life? What area of your life do you need to surrender and let God enter into to chisel you, mold you and shape you?

Let me ask you this way: Is it your heart or your mind (intellect) that is lacking in your relationship with God? Which is it? Which one are you falsely placing more importance on?

You’re probably not outright saying this to yourselves. Think about it, we never outright say things that we wouldn’t agree with – but that is the message we communicate to ourselves and others based on how we live our lives and prioritize everything.

For my “heart-heavy” Jesus followers:

  • Sometime this week, create time when you can sit aside and dig into know God more through His word or by listening to a podcast sermon while you’re driving.

For my “mind-heavy” Jesus followers:

  • Set aside some time this week to evaluate your heart and talk to God in prayer. Ask Him to reveal to you what it looks like to pursue Him with a passionate desire in your heart.



When we humble ourselves, the result will be life-changing! God will take you to a whole new level of relationship with Him beyond what you could have imagined.

But here’s they key – you have to be willing to let Him!

Imagine what it would be like to know God more deeply on a personal level AND to experience deeper intimacy with Him!

Imagine what it would look like and the type of impact it would have on your home life with family, relational life with friends and co-workers, etc.

Now if each and every one of us took this challenge seriously and implemented it, what kind of impact would that have in our local communities, in business, and in the world?

What Are Your Thoughts?

As always, I’d love to hear your feedback! What’d you think? Drop a line in the comments below or send me an email at matt@fulfillmentinlife.com 🙂


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